About-Friends

Is it just me..or do you wish sometimes that your friend will take your side. I'm all for honesty-yeah you shouldn't lie to your friends and all that-but sometimes i already know my mistake-i just want my friend to tell me it's fine. Off course i know someone syin 'it will be fine' does not mean it will be fine...but it just makes me feel better. I remember after a break up, my friend always used to tell me that my ex was staring at me-she was constantly looking for signs to make me believe that he still loved me! Even now, i don't care if it was true or not-it made me feel better. Human beings are insensitive. I remember one time after some stupid guy had me crying on the phone to my friend.. inbetween sobs im like 'do you think it's me?..why do all guys do this'..all she needed to do was say..'thats rubbish..no'...Do you know what she said? 'i think so..it's probably something you're doing'.. I think that was the time i started restricting what i said. If you cannot count on your friend to make you feel better when you're down-then really?

I love my flatmate, because she will never hit me when im down. Trust me the best time to tell someone they are doing something wrong is not when they are cryin on their bedroom floor, or shouting in anger.At that point be a friend-say the right things..when they feel better-you can say what you want-tactfully.

Another thing-listening. My friends fall into two broad categories. Those that listen and those that don't. For those that fall into the latter category, i restrict what i say. if it doesnt sound interesting enough in my head-i won't tell them. No matter how close they are! I think iot's selfish not to listen. Some of my friends just say stuff that is sooo boring? so? everyone is boring sometimes..i know that when i'm boring-they'll listen too.

I think trust is the foundation of any relationship. If my friend starts thinking im lying, then im going to start talking less and less. It goes both ways- if you think your friend is lyin to you-maybe u should just ask them straight up why they would lie to you-or whatever works. If you cant trust someone...err..really..what's the point?

I like to think im a good friend, that's why i have few friends-quality, rather than quantity!

Email me!

if you have anything to say about anything..
email me:
darkerberry@hotmail.com

xx

My First Heartbreak

I was 11. He was an older guy-13. He was hot (at least to us at that time); half caste looking, with some kind of somalian looking hair and he could play 'b-ball'. His parents were fine, and everyone in their family had some exotic sounding janded names..not peter and paul oh..kai..i dont want to mention names sha-use your imagination. hot stuvs! We heard he moved into the estate, after he told one boy, 'my mum will call the police on you'..In those days, when the general threat was 'i'll break ya head'..'try me..you will see something today'..he screamed..hmm..class? at least to us sha.

We sharply made friends with his sister. She take style fine sha..but we didn't care about her long hair and blemish free smooth skin..We just wanted to watch J playin b-ball and looking fine. Eventually, we formed some sort of friendship with him..and the big question came..'so who do you like?' It was a big deal for weeks..the main contenders being, me and my best friend L. Eventually, he wrote it on the dashboard of his dad's car with chalk as it drove out of his house one day. BB. Yes!! I had a boyfriend. After some badly spelled letters (from him) declaring his love..we were official!!

Anyhoo..I have no idea what we did sha..but I had to go back to boarding school. When i came back maybe for half term or something..There was 'hot gist' all over the estate. J had cheated on me..with L! my best friend and my boyfriend;what a cliche..Apparently, it wasn't a one time thing..they were having an affair(well-two times); the first time-they had a 'show me i show u'..lol..how dirty..the second time..he pulled down her thin 'sphaggeti straps' and squeezed her breasts..his verdict? 'her breasts were like puff puff'..

To be honest..i wasn't heartbroken..i just found the whole thing funny. I guess i cheated with the title. im bored now.

xx

Marry me Please?!

These days i'm addicted to blogsville. If it was a real place, with real people, who had real faces and real names (u get the general idea).. i would get down on my knee(s) and beg naijafineboy to marry me! Is it possible to fall in love with someone bcos of how they write..apparently..But while i'm waiting for him to realise he cant live without me and propose...

I went on a date last nite..This isn't the first time i've gone out with this guy-it's the second (and the last) time. the first time i went out with him..i remember being a bit repulsed by his tiny body and extremely spotty face (which was well hidden in the dim light when i met him). He showed up half an hour late and spoke in this 'i've bin in jand for years..so my voice has to change' accent. I was quiet throughout the hour long date and promptly deleted him from my memory!..as they say 'everybody makes mistakes'..

As they also say (who is they?) 'time heals all wounds...so somehow when he called me yesterday to ask me out again..it seemed like a good idea. it's not like i had anytthing better to do? right?

First of all, he showed up early without calling first!! He was actually proud that he was on time..I on the other hand was still lounging in my ratty pyjamas and eating indomie! I hate being late..but it was his fault..i still had to rush around and wear something(that looked good).sha sha..wen i finally made it out..he still said something about 'woman and getting ready'..

Anyhoo..i was thinking..ok..time does heal all wounds..until we got out of the car and he started shrugging on his grey denim jacket!! shey na joke be dis?? it had pockets on the chest area!! kai!!after scratching the options of public places (resturants, bars..) we went to the cinema. ps-i love the cinema because: it's dark..u don't have to talk..and when the movie is over..you can talk about the movie if you have nothing else to say.

when we were pondering on what food to buy...he pointed to an icecream tub and said 'if you buy that i'd have to feed it to you'..what??? Needless to say..ben & jerry's cookie dough suddenly repulsed me, so i grabbed a bottle of water!

Thank God..i enjoyed the movie..afterwards..when he mentioned something about the night still being young..i in turn mentioned something about my bed being warm..and i went home!!

I'm young, beautiful and happy..being single..there's no way i'm EVER(except im 32 and have no serious relationship) lowering my standards again!

xx

Who Does He Think He Is??

I had a dream about a guy i just met. It was crazy..intense..it went straight from sending msgs on facebook(pathetic..i know)..to goin out a couple of times..to our first kiss(details of that are a bit hazy)....basically..it was a very long dream!! i wake up thinking:
1.I didn't want to wake up (let me not lie)
2.What the hell does that mean?

Anyone that has dream experience is welcome to tell me what they think

xx

Welcome to me!

There's something about pseudo-anonymity that makes you just want to spill your guts. But starting my blog with an intense secret is probably a little scary!!..Right now my life is a bit..well not too bunz..i wont lie..no money..no oko..no fun..(save the occasional perv) urgh..but anyhoo..all that's about to change..i can feel it!! lol..this will definitely be my 'dryest' post! Let the drama begin....hope you have as much fun reading as i have writing..

xxxx