About-Friends

Is it just me..or do you wish sometimes that your friend will take your side. I'm all for honesty-yeah you shouldn't lie to your friends and all that-but sometimes i already know my mistake-i just want my friend to tell me it's fine. Off course i know someone syin 'it will be fine' does not mean it will be fine...but it just makes me feel better. I remember after a break up, my friend always used to tell me that my ex was staring at me-she was constantly looking for signs to make me believe that he still loved me! Even now, i don't care if it was true or not-it made me feel better. Human beings are insensitive. I remember one time after some stupid guy had me crying on the phone to my friend.. inbetween sobs im like 'do you think it's me?..why do all guys do this'..all she needed to do was say..'thats rubbish..no'...Do you know what she said? 'i think so..it's probably something you're doing'.. I think that was the time i started restricting what i said. If you cannot count on your friend to make you feel better when you're down-then really?

I love my flatmate, because she will never hit me when im down. Trust me the best time to tell someone they are doing something wrong is not when they are cryin on their bedroom floor, or shouting in anger.At that point be a friend-say the right things..when they feel better-you can say what you want-tactfully.

Another thing-listening. My friends fall into two broad categories. Those that listen and those that don't. For those that fall into the latter category, i restrict what i say. if it doesnt sound interesting enough in my head-i won't tell them. No matter how close they are! I think iot's selfish not to listen. Some of my friends just say stuff that is sooo boring? so? everyone is boring sometimes..i know that when i'm boring-they'll listen too.

I think trust is the foundation of any relationship. If my friend starts thinking im lying, then im going to start talking less and less. It goes both ways- if you think your friend is lyin to you-maybe u should just ask them straight up why they would lie to you-or whatever works. If you cant trust someone...err..really..what's the point?

I like to think im a good friend, that's why i have few friends-quality, rather than quantity!